Hi Perry- Until it's determined why your elbow, shoulder and wrist are acting up, this is what I would do with bee stings to help manage the pain.
I would start with anywhere on the elbow, one sting. I don't know when the last time was that you got stung, but should count on some swelling and itching. Everyone is different. As soon as the swelling is down which will be about 3 days, sting it again.
The long handled tweezer are the best, but you can use your wives if she will let you
Grap a bee at the entrance or wherever is convenient, try and get her at her thorax
place the bees bottom right on the skin where it hurts, wait a couple of seconds and gently pull her away leaving the stinger on your skin.
Once the stinger is in your skin, count 5 seconds the quickly scratch the stinger out.
You will feel the fire for about 10-15 minutes, then your painful area should be feeling better. This one stings should ease the pain in your shoulder and wrist. In time you will be putting a stinger in all three places.
Be patient with your healing process, take note of any changes. You can sting every three days. It will take anywhere from 15-20 stings in succession before the swelling and itching is no longer present.
Keep me posted, Jennifer