I would say go with nitrate gloves and get use to picking up and handling bees with out the gloves it gives so much more dexterity. Get her picking up drones first and then fuzzy new hatched worker bees and let them walk on her hands and arms. A couple of drones on the inside of the veil with you also gets you use to being close to the bees and to stay calm and not freak out when one is buzzing in your hair of beside your ear.
I don't wear one and my daughters don't bother putting on the veils neither when they are with me, they just know if they stay calm the bees stay calm also. And if you do get stung It is no big deal.