Anniversaries

[riverbee]

anyone ever forget it was your anniversary? not the exact month or the  exact date, or the exact year, you always remember this right?
but maybe just sorta forgot it was this morning when you woke up?
oops.
well, not saying i have done this and not saying it happened, just saying..........

let's hear the stories, and what you did to recover from a temporary moment of CRS.
also any stories on what you should have done, not done,  what you should have said, or maybe what you ought not to have said? what about the gift, card, flowers, dinner, etc......... or lack thereof?

ps jack, love to hear your story/stories....

[Perry]

Have never forgot my wedding anniversary.
In all honesty the one thing my wife and I have never done, is raise our voices to each other, curse during a disagreement, or say anything we may have regretted later. We have agreed to disagree on many things, but one of the first things we agreed on was that hurtful words cannot be taken back.

[iddee]

If I don't forget a week from Tuesday, Mar. 31, it will be 47 I have remembered. The most trouble it has ever caused me is when I tell people I woke up the next morning and said, APRIL FOOL.

[Riverrat]

I cant forget. The wife and I got married on ST patricks day

[Zweefer]

I once had my wife call and wish me a happy anniversary, and my inner monologue went oh @#$@#! I forgot it! I didn't think that was this soon...   Come to find out, I for once was right.  It was her sister's anniversary, our was still two weeks out. 

So I have never forgotten, but was tricked into thinking I did once.

[Jen]

Hubby never forgets, but I have a handful of times... Well, 40 years of almost bliss is a lot to remember, ya know.... 

[brooksbeefarm]

I've never forgot our anniversary, not that i'm smart, it's because our anniversary is June 5, and our daughters birthday is June 6, and the wife starts talking about what she is going to buy for her and baking her a birthday cake.  So i get plenty of pre-warning This Valentines day was the first time i didn't buy my wife a box of Russel Stovers Chocolates, she warned me if i did she wouldn't fix me supper,Well she doesn't tell me what to do,so i bought a box anyway and i'll keep them in my shop. Jack
PS. i like to tell people i had to get married,makes my wife start explaining. Of course our daughter was born 5 years after we got married.

[efmesch]

We celebrate our anniversary on two dates---once according to the civil calendar and once on the Hebrew calendar.  Most years, the two dates don't coincide, so theoretically, if we were to forget one, we would have a second chance.  But we've never forgotten either date.  I like to think of our marriage as the most important event in our lives and, I dare say, I think of our anniversary many times during the year.  This year we're treading toward our fiftieth married year and a lot of times I wake up in the morning and remind my wife that we're on our way there--still together.
However, just in case we should get forgetful (very theoretical) we have external reminders---our Daughter was born on the Hebrew date anniversary and one of our sons was born on our civil date anniversary.

[kingd]

Ours is on July 3,we did that to try to remember that it is just before the 4th. We do have a hard time remembering how long we have been
married though.

[Jen]

A blessed event for you and your wife to be sure Ef    Hubby and I will acknowledge the day of our anniversary, but we don't go to any special event for it because we do lots of nice things for each other all through out the year. For instance, when hubby goes wood cutting for the day, he always brings me some wonderful woodsy trinket that caught his eye, it may be a rock shaped like a heart covered in thick lichen. This year, in November we will be married 40 years   

[LogicalBee]

In all honesty the one thing my wife and I have never done, is raise our voices to each other, curse during a disagreement, or say anything we may have regretted later. We have agreed to disagree on many things, but one of the first things we agreed on was that hurtful words cannot be taken back.

What a great piece of advice.

[Slowmodem]

Our Anniversary is February 14th.  Easy to remember. 

[riverbee]

anniversaries.........

i started this thread......i only forgot what day i was in.......saturday , sunday.....just the day....not my wedding date, not my anniversary date, not the year, just what day i was in.  i was only trying to make light of a situation i was in, and did a poor job doing so with my first post.

last month we lost a really close friend to cancer. a great deal of memories.  still trying to get my head and heart wrapped around him being gone.  i got him started in keeping bees a few years ago.  i have spent a great deal of time with him and with his family before he passed, and after,  and with his wife  thereafter making sure she was okay.
the past week i spent a great deal of time with her, my good friend and more; she is family to me. she is struggling with the loss of her husband.  i have spent time with her going through his personal belongings, effects, clothing, etc....and beekeeping equipment and what to do with it. actually, she was the smarter beekeeper than he was........
when he first got the cancer, he tried to hang in there with the bees. he couldn't. the chemotherapy knocked him down so hard he couldn't keep up. the bees suffered and died, so i went through all of the equipment, i guess about 35 - 40 hives, double deeps with multiple supers on, to store them properly to prevent any damage .  i went through the equipment again last week with his wife, in cold weather. what to do with it, not just frames and deeps but  all of the equipment including extracting equipment and the tears flowed.
she loves bees; she loved keeping bees, and loved everything about bees, probably more so than her husband. she  didn't want to give it up when he became sick, didn't want to give them up and can't let go of the equipment, but doesn't have a partner to share it with anymore.

i can't take on or buy all the equipment, i don't need the equipment. it's all in good shape.  she would like to keep some bees but  she can't manage 35 to 40 hives by herself if she were to start over unless she has my help. maybe a few hives.  i would love more than anything to help her get back into bees to help her with that  part of the healing process with a few hives.   a hard decision for me with my allergy and what i have promised. how can i say no?   

i guess i was exhausted, and days mixed up for me this time.  i knew when mr. rb brought me a cup of coffee and a card still half asleep....
we celebrate our anniversary every year.  i just want to say there is nothing i need or want for, and the most valuable part of my life or what matters to me to the most is us......that's it.  i don't need or want anything else......
except next year to remember what day it is.........

[Jen]

Great Big Hug Riverbee. Hubby and I have had another married couple as our bestest friends for 34 years now. Both of our families have been thru a lot, and been thru a lot together. Health issues are showing up in all four of us. I keep pushing away the inevitable in my thoughts.

There is no doubt in my mind that your dear friend knows what a jewel of a friend she has in You 

[efmesch]

There is no where that it is said better than in Genesis 2:24
"Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh."

My sincerest sympathies for your good friend RB.  It not only hurts the couple when they are separated but also others who learn of a "forced" separation.  It hurts us all.  The whole world is less well off when such inevitable things happen.

[Papakeith]

I've not forgotten our anniversary. I've come close, but scooted out to the store for a card in the wee hours of the morning before my wife woke up.

My mother, however, got wrapped up in the day to day of life one year and forgot.  My Father jokes that this gave him a free pass to forget for the rest of his life with no repercussions! 
They celebrated 50 years together last July.  They were married on 7/11  a lucky date indeed

[kebee]

 All I can say is I love my wife more than my own and as of now have not forgotten our anniversary or she mine.

Ken

[Slowmodem]

anniversaries.........

i started this thread......i only forgot what day i was in.......saturday , sunday.....just the day....not my wedding date, not my anniversary date, not the year, just what day i was in.

You need one of these.  I have one and it is critical to me because working 12-hour swing shifts, I don't know what day it is most of the time.  Google it under "day clock".

i just want to say there is nothing i need or want for, and the most valuable part of my life or what matters to me to the most is us......that's it.  i don't need or want anything else......

That is a wonderful thought and the best that any of us can aspire to.

[riverbee]

thanks greg, i appreciate what you said, for me it is very true.  the clock? i know you work some crazy hours.  i just got wrapped up in my friend's hard struggle, and 'forgot' about anything and everything else. made me appreciate even more so what i have in my life, my marriage, my partnership, my friendship.

i can't say like perry that we have never had any harsh words, or raised voices.  we have. i'm irish, he's german........come on....
but the one thing that we do is work through it, always have.
and ps, i am married to a family law/divorce lawyer and a city ordinance king..........

i have 'seen' so much stuff through him and his clients, listened to it, and answered the phone to distraught clients who managed to find our home number, and been a sounding board for things he cannot discuss with anyone else....much more than that.....unbelievable, it would make your head spin and think, what planet are they on? 

thanks jen, i am a 'jewel' of a friend.

and thank you ef!

thanks to all for your comments, life is good!

[Slowmodem]

When I got to work this afternoon, I found out that my partner had a heart attack this morning.  He's in the hospital and resting and will undergo tests tomorrow.  I think he'll be ok.  But you never know about this stuff.  It can come out of the blue.  Appreciate every day and every one you love.