Author Topic: Good Morning Post (Read 157284 times)

Jen · « **Reply #520 on:** February 09, 2015, 12:15:37 pm »

Curious situation for sure Perry. What's your plan of attack? Would you shovel down to the lid and then put some fondant in real quick like?

Perry · « **Reply #521 on:** February 09, 2015, 02:30:47 pm »

Nothing I really can do Jen, it's way too cold to even think about cracking a cover.

Jen · « **Reply #522 on:** February 09, 2015, 02:44:23 pm »

Bummer! A true test of patience for sure ~

LogicalBee · « **Reply #523 on:** February 10, 2015, 11:36:17 pm »

We had a beautiful coating of hoar frost this morning (tues that was) in Mich. Got down to around 0F, but still on the good side

Jen · « **Reply #524 on:** February 10, 2015, 11:43:57 pm »

Photo Op

LogicalBee · « **Reply #525 on:** February 10, 2015, 11:52:00 pm »

I didn't get any photos of hoar frost on the bat

Jen · « **Reply #526 on:** February 11, 2015, 12:50:02 am »

I hope not! bat should be snuggled in a corner sleeping somewhere in your attic...

brooksbeefarm · « **Reply #527 on:** February 11, 2015, 09:51:32 am »

Watching the mourning news and seeing what the people up north are going through makes me hate that white crap more

. Been seeing post from my buddy perry, but the squirt must be shoveling that crap or to tired to post as much $:-\$ . I quit poking them about the white stuff, it's not funny any more and they have more coming.

When it does start to melt off, there will be flood waters to deal with :'(. For my area (knock on wood) we've had less of the white crap and ice that i can remember in several years

. Mid to late Feb. the Maples and Willow trees start budding out and the bees start flying in the upper 50F days, and usually things keep getting better, but there'er calling for more cold weather coming from Canada the rest of this week and next. :'( Jack

LazyBkpr · « **Reply #528 on:** February 11, 2015, 10:51:34 am »

Mother in law says most people up there have plowed themselves into a corner. they have no where else to PUSH the snow to.. One neighbor has a salamander running in the driveway trying to MELT the berm of snow before they get the next wave..

riverbee · « **Reply #529 on:** February 11, 2015, 11:39:31 am »

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jack you can poke fun at me about the white stuff, i have been a little mia, i lost a good friend to cancer last week, was helping the family out and then the wake and the funeral. hard on the ol heart.

we were hammered yesterday, started out sleet and rain, big pellets of sleet, then switched to snowing, more sleet, more snow. i am not even going to shovel the driveway off today, it's too darn cold, and besides, don't want to shovel the snow off to leave a skating rink i would fall down on in my driveway........

Jen · « **Reply #530 on:** February 11, 2015, 11:49:48 am »

Jack- "Mid to late Feb. the Maples and Willow trees start budding out

I remember quite a few years ago, we were well into spring, the trees leafed out and buds about to bloom, we got a freak storm for two nights, two feet of snow. It was too much weight for the trees with being leafed out and the snow. We could hear trees breaking all thru those two nights. Broken trees everywhere.

iddee · « **Reply #531 on:** February 11, 2015, 12:00:08 pm »

Our heaviest snows always come in March, so I'm not making any early plans. I think Riverbee has been absent because the snow is up over the cell phone and broadband towers.

brooksbeefarm · « **Reply #532 on:** February 11, 2015, 12:12:35 pm »

Squirt,I have a school buddy and neighbor that has cancer and told he had 3 months.

I need to call him or go see him, but don't know what to say to him? He is taking chemo and is sick afterwards and i don't know when to call or visit him? I try to put myself in his place to see what i would want people to do, but haven't come up with a good answer?

I'm sure some of you have been through something like this, Would appreciate any help. Jack

riverbee · « **Reply #533 on:** February 11, 2015, 12:26:12 pm »

"I think Riverbee has been absent because the snow is up over the cell phone and broadband towers. "

..........ZING!.................

jack, my good friend was fighting it the last year and a half. chemo, etc., remission, came back. 4 weeks ago the mayo clinic said he had maybe 3 weeks.
i would suggest talking to his wife, find out when a good time to come by is. there is nothing you can say really, to him or the family, it gets awkward, but spend the time now. offer your support, and visit with him. talk about all the good times you shared, etc.

Jen · « **Reply #534 on:** February 11, 2015, 01:01:11 pm »

Yes Riv, those are nice words there. Jack, I have been thru the cancer recovery process. River is right about consulting with the wife on when would be the best time to stop by. Don't be afraid to ask him how he is? He will let you know, men especially need to talk about it. In a strange way, it helps make sense of it all.

I will say this... It's much better on your conscious and your friends conscious to face the awkwardness, than to not stop and see him at all. It's a little uncomfortable right at first, but then conversation just picks up and the two of you will talk and chuckle, maybe even have a good laugh. When you leave his house and get into you car and drive away, you will be left with a wonderful warm spot in your heart that you did the right thing.

Personally, I didn't mind talking to my friends about what I was going thru, it actually helped relieve built up fear and tension.

Here's another real nice thing you can do. Ask his wife if you can bring a casserole or dinner for him and her (or the family). Ask what it is that he can eat. A large pot of homemake chicken noodle soup is alway a hit with cancer patients. It's easy on their traumatized stomach, and it's comforting to eat, and smells delicious. It was a great help in my household because hubby didn't know how to cook much. Taking care of your friend and the one taking care of him is important.

Curtchann · « **Reply #535 on:** February 11, 2015, 01:23:42 pm »

Jack, after many of visits to Hospice in the last few years. The easiest thing to do is talk, talk about anything they or you want to. It may seem awkward at first, but believe me it's good for the heart and soul. It will mean more to you and your friend than you can ever imagine.

Jen · « **Reply #536 on:** February 11, 2015, 02:31:00 pm »

Ditto Curt

Perry · « **Reply #537 on:** February 11, 2015, 03:00:39 pm »

I lost my best friend 13 years ago (same age, married the same year, etc etc.) to a stage 4 brain tumor.
Just be yourself Jack, it's who you are, and who they want you to be. Don't "act" any differently.

Jen · « **Reply #538 on:** February 11, 2015, 04:51:56 pm »

For those of my bee friends on this forum who have dealt personally with cancer, or have lost a dear one to cancer ~ I send you all the blessings I can muster ~hugs~

riverbee · « **Reply #539 on:** February 11, 2015, 06:37:37 pm »

"The easiest thing to do is talk, talk about anything they or you want to. It may seem awkward at first, but believe me it's good for the heart and soul. It will mean more to you and your friend than you can ever imagine. "

"Just be yourself Jack, it's who you are, and who they want you to be."

what curtchann said, what perry said...........

talking and laughing and even some crying is good medicine for the heart and soul. both ways.

and to what jen said, the wife or the family might not ask for help. offer to drive him to chemo or go with him, send some dinners over to him, anything works.
don't find yourself with any regret later on......