Lost my best friend and cousin a few years ago to a brain tumor.. we talked a lot, I was always up seeing him.. He was a week past his 50th birthday..
We talked about everything, and often, we talked about doing things.. Getting him out of there, setting him up in the front of my store fixing computers. i could do all the running for him.. had pictures of the store, so we made plans to remodel... We both knew he wasnt coming home, but it was sure fun to talk and make plans...
I have another cousin now fighting cancer. I always ask the news when i see him. he tells me, then we start talking cars, and engines, and drag racing.. he is one of the few people I can actually TALK engines with.. When i start rattling off cam profiles and runner sizes his eyes dont glaze over with a lack of understanding or care, they light up with understanding and excitement.. I honestly dont know if we will ever get the chance to build the engines we talk about, but the point is, he likes it, i like it, we both enjoy it, and when he is gone, I will miss it more than is imaginable....
Just talk, be supportive... yeah, it hurts. No, you dont want to be there. its HARD, but its what friends do.