"We have one small event to take care of first, after 10 years together Ken and I have decided to become Mr. & Mrs." i can't add much to what has already been said les, but......hmmmm, SMALL EVENT?!...............
congratulations and best wishes to you and ken......NYC and a JP? go for it! have a party or something to satisfy the 'angry family members', they will get over it. it's your life, your wedding (and ken's).....do it the way you guys want!
and ps, happy hunting south of COLD WEATHER!......